He is your flesh and blood, so swooping in to help your kid in tough times is a natural impulse. But, do you know that being available for your child every time and helping him with everything can make him helpless and incapable of dealing with the situation? Yes, that’s true! Many psychologists have found that parents who swoop in and meddle with their kids too much make them highly dependent and incapable of solving problems.
But that doesn’t mean you set them completely free and wild so that they can live their life on their own terms. There are a few situations where they need your help, support, and care. But then, there are times when you should allow them to do things their way. Trust me, it’s very important. Why? Let’s see a few reasons!
1. They’ll Become Self-Dependent
Being a mother, you want to be there for your kid always. But by doing that, you are making him completely dependent on yourself. It’s good to be around the kids every time, but then you should leave them on their own for some time. This will provide them a chance to do things their way. They would understand that yelling ‘Mom’ every now and then is not the right thing. If you try to inculcate this into your kid from the beginning, then he will grow up to be a self-dependent adult.
2. They’ll Learn to Accept Their Mistakes
When you set your kid-free, he will surely make a lot of mistakes. That’s when you should tell him why it’s okay to make mistakes and move on with them. Once he learns to accept the mistakes, he will start heeding lessons from them which is one of the most crucial traits to live a successful life. Also, to avoid the embarrassment that comes with mistakes, he will do every possible thing to avoid it. So, let your kid be himself, let him make mistakes, just be there to hold him when he falls too badly.
3. They’ll Learn to Come Out of Comfort Zone
We all love our comfort zones because it makes us feel safe. What’s the point of a life which doesn’t have any adventure? We anticipate the challenges that might come our way and fear from them, but we never think about the positive outcomes that we may get. If you encourage your child to be himself, then he would try to step out of his comfort zone. And if that happens, then life would become more welcoming for him.
4. They’ll Learn to Make Decisions
When the kids are on their own, they come across situations when they have to make decisions. This helps them in the long term since we all have to make some decisions at every point of life. Let them decide what they want to have for the dinner (You know how to make it healthy). Let them choose the clothes they want to wear or how they want to make their hair.
Even if the decision goes wrong, don’t worry. They will at least learn something. In addition, you can give puzzle activities to your kids as they enhance their cognitive abilities and improve their decision making skills. There are several puzzles available, such as scrabble which is excellent for your kids as it can help them learn new words and also assist them to remember things better and solve problems.
5. They’ll Learn to Face Challenges if You Let Your Kid Be Himself
There come many times in life when we fail to face the challenges and succumb to the situation. This generally happens because we are not ready for it. You too might have come across such situations when you didn’t know what to do. But don’t let your kid fear the challenges. Let him be on himself, let him face the challenges that are coming his way. This will prepare him for some really big challenges that life would throw at him in the long run.
6. They’ll Get a Chance to Explore Themselves
What is the one thing that your kid love to do the most? Is it sketching or playing scrabble or puzzle? Well, whatever be it, allow him to do whatever he likes the most. When your kid is doing something that he enjoys the most, then he would be able to explore himself in a better way. This will also help you understand your kid better. Getting to know your passion and desires at a tender age is something that helps you understand your ultimate goal.
So, all the mommies out there, set your kid-free, don’t impose your decisions on him, let him enjoy his time, let him be himself. The moment you stop swooping in everything that your child does, you will start seeing a new and better version of him. And this is something that every mother wants. So, give wings to your kid so that he can fly high in the sky!
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