We all want our children to be perfect. To be successful as parents, we follow so many things. But most of the time, we fail to recognize the factors that influence our children’s development most. Yes, you have guessed it right. By adopting some positive changes in our behavior, we can contribute majorly to raising our children as successful and responsible human beings. Instead of changing ourselves, we impose unnecessary burdens on our little ones to fulfill our dream. Come, let’s be the changes we want to see in our children’s lives.
1. Taking care of ourselves
If we do not take care of ourselves, it would be difficult for us to take care of others especially our children. We moms always put ourselves at last on the priority list. Sometimes it results in exhaustion, anxiety, and frustration within us. Taking care of our physical and mental health enable us to manage our life efficiently. By engaging in activities that replenish our energy, we can fulfill the demands of motherhood with a smiling face. We should make out time for our hobbies, exercises, or meditation to boost up our emotional health regularly. If we love to talk to our parents, siblings, or friends, we should include it in our schedule. It will help us to reduce our mental stress.
Self-pampering is also needed sometimes to keep us rejuvenated. By having a massage or spa, getting pedicures and manicures, we can make ourselves re-energized.
2. Growing an Attitude of gratitude
Gratitude is the personality trait for which we can develop a positive attitude towards life. We teach our children to say “ thank you” for getting any help or a gift. But in most cases, it becomes a mere habit. Because we adults do not portray thankfulness through our words and actions. We can teach our children gratitude only by showing gratefulness through our behavior. We can fix time before going to bed at night, to express thankfulness to the Almighty. If we become thankful for every good thing that happens to us, it will cultivate gratitude in our children. I think we should be thankful for being blessed with such loving kids in our lives. All these will help us to deal with the negativity around us. Eventually, we will be more satisfied, and our children will be raised as happy and sensible human beings with meaningful life.
3. Being compassionate
By instilling empathy, compassion, and kindness in our children from an early age, we can make the world a better place for them. We have to teach them to respect others’ feelings and act accordingly. As we are the role models for our children, we must try to model these attributes. If we give value to others’ perspectives, express concern for other people’s well-being, and try our best to reduce other’s suffering- it sows the seeds of compassion in our children. When we praise someone generously in front of our children or acknowledge some help from others, it makes a positive impression in young minds. We have to pay proper respect to the people around us – be it our neighbors, shopkeepers, driver, a waiter in the restaurant and not to mention our domestic help.
4. Trying to be more patient to see the positive changes in Relationships
Patience is the keyword for successful parenting. It helps us not to get entangled in small day-to-day happenings and focus on priorities. We have to listen to the meaningless stories of our children patiently and answer all their queries patiently. Every child wants attention from his parents. If we give attention and listen to him patiently, it would enhance his self-esteem and confidence. If we lose patience and shout at them, it will cause stress and frustration for them. By listening to every detail that our children want to share with us, we can foster healthy communication with them. Incidentally, our relations with them become strong. We remain informed about all the happenings in their life and guide them accordingly.
5. Staying joyful and peaceful
If we want to raise our children well, we have to transform ourselves into joyful and peaceful human beings. We should avoid demonstrating negative attributes like anger, fear, jealousy in our daily lives. If we keep the atmosphere at our home happy and peaceful, our children will grow as happy and joyful. Joy, love, care, discipline should be incorporated proportionally in our daily lives. If we can discover joy and happiness in the little day-to-day affairs, we will be able to embrace all the positive changes wholeheartedly.
6. Being flexible
Rigidity can harm any relationship. We should have the courage to accept our mistakes and the flexibility to rectify them. Open-mindedness can help us to have a better understanding of our kids. We should not follow the authoritative attitude towards them always. Understanding everything from their point of view by putting ourselves in their shoes makes it easier to solve any problem. Sometimes, the little brains can think of some excellent ideas to handle a problem. We have to come out of our ego and learn new things with a new perspective. It is good to invite their opinions on some important matters. This will make our children rely on us. A healthy and happy parent-children bonding would be possible in that way.
7. Giving up procrastinating
Another positive change we can embrace is giving up the habit of procrastination. We should be well organized in our lives. If we keep on procrastinating, our children will follow it and would become lazy and demotivated all the time. It is difficult for a lazy child to achieve great things in life. We have to keep them active and enthusiastic always.
So by infusing these positive changes in our lives, we can help our children to lead a happy, successful life. There is no standard parenting style by which we can raise an achiever. If we transform ourselves a little bit and consistently nurture these positive attributes, the journey of parenting will be smooth and enjoyable. This way, the world would be a better place for our children and they will live their lives to the fullest.
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